Jeffrey J. Ryan, M.A. C.R.T.
During the process of discovery in locating the ISE, (initial sensitizing event) an important question needs to be asked of the client/patient. What messages are they carrying in mind about themselves? I call these messages “Absolutes.” In most cases these messages rule the life. The emotional energy attached to each message will undoubtedly trigger feelings within that will stop the patient cold.
We, as human beings, horde these messages as though it was and is a retirement account. They are delivered to us sometimes in small increments but in most as a one two punch to the head or gut. They are given to us by well-intentioned meaningful authority or respected figures in our environment.
For example, a parent will say to the child, “Don’t touch that; you’re too clumsy.” It could come at the precise moment that the child feels happy to be working with Dad. And it will stay for life and affect everything he attempts to do. However benign that one statement is, the affect depends on like messages being received from the same source over and over again. These statements build on each other and eventually wear down the patient. The subconscious, which remembers and holds onto everything, will eventually boil them all down to one huge gigantic absolute that will play havoc in the mind.