by Dree K. Miller, Ph.D.
It is commonplace for therapists to hear the variety of ways in which their clients are victims. Some clients are victims of child abuse or dysfunctional family backgrounds. Some are victims of abusive relationships with mates, friends, employers, family. Others are the victims of circumstances, never being able to succeed in school, find and hold a job, or have even an adequate living environment. Occasionally there seem to be those who are just “victims of life.” Or could it be that they are the victims of past life? Within the context of past-life therapy the concept of victimization shifts from an external experience to an internal design. Being a victim is no longer a case of being “done to” but rather becomes a method or attempt to achieve spiritual growth.
The active victim ran be angry, bitter, and resentful, frequently liberally spreading bitterness to others in the form of insensitive, sometimes even abusive behavior that is often a re-enactment of the victimization process. Passive victims can be apologetic for anything and everything, almost as though they are apologizing for existing. Nothing they do seems to be done “right,” or enough, or have value. They assume responsibility for the world, the weather, and everyone else’s thoughts, feelings, and behavior.