My experience and subjective understanding of Karma.

Sonia Tapiador (Spain)

Editor’s Note: In last year’s issue there was a discussion by our editors on the topic of Karma. In this issue Sonia Tapiador from Spain is sharing with us her own understanding of Karma.

Introduction

I was born into grief, as my father died while I was still in my mother’s womb. Experiencing the absence of the masculine figure so early in life generated my need for a constant reason to live, and the need to “search for answers.” My connection to grief and death endowed me with a heightened awareness, extrasensory perception, and special sensitivity. From a very young age, I was clear about my life’s mission, drawn by a deep interest in the paranormal, the unseen and the hereafter. Here follows what I think Karma is, as I understand it through my personal experiences.

Wheel of Fortune, Karma:

Personal/Familial Energetic debt, luck, misfortune, karma, destiny… these are terms we often use to refer to repetitive events in life that defy logical explanation and seem to escape our rational control. The truth is that the universe is governed by energetic laws. Everything is energy, and each individual is a vibrational field of energy. Energy needs movement; everything functions as long as energy flows and is distributed evenly and in balance. However, when energy stagnates—when there’s either excess or deficiency—it generates chaos and creates imbalance. For example: illness is atomic chaos within our body, and symptoms are the alarm signal of this chaos. And what causes energy stagnation in our system? The information we carry in our DNA and unconscious from personal and transgenerational traumas and emotional wounds. Our personal biography—and that of our ancestors here’s a transgenerational transmission of energetic patterns in DNA, as shown by epigenetics)—becomes our biology. The emotional wounds we carry, both our own and inherited, are energy in motion that will activate throughout our lives and attract situations aligned with our blockages. In other words, as energy attracts, it attracts more looping, stagnant or blocked situations (we all have experiences of repeating situations and even family stories). We think we are free to choose our lives, but the truth is that we are conditioned by the information carried within our energy field, because the internal always manifests in the external (Kolk, 2015. Barret, 2017). Some still believe they carry no wounds, traumas, or blockages—something biologically impossible, since we are all wounded children. In the womb, our little heart synchronizes with our mother’s, even before our brain is fully developed. Our mother teaches us what love feels like, but at the same time, she transmits all her unresolved conflicts, blockages, and ancestral stories—energetic debts. This adds to the information already encoded in our DNA from our ancestors. During gestation, our energy is influenced not only by our mother’s, but also by the surrounding environment (father and the situations they are immersed in). Our brain, still undeveloped and without filters (since the neocortex or rational brain isn’t yet functional), becomes hyperactivated in the reptilian brain (responsible for senses and primitive instincts) and the limbic system (emotions), as all this conflictual information is experienced as stress (Siegel, 1999). And like all mammals, we react with fight or flight responses—but in the womb, we can neither flee nor confront, meaning that trauma is inevitable. This process continues during the first seven years of life—especially for immature children. Unable to process conflicting information, they accumulate multiple traumas, emotional wounds, and energy leaks. Until around age seven, the prefrontal cortex (executive control, reasoning, and filtering) is not fully functional, and children operate mostly in theta brainwaves—relaxed, subconscious states—allowing all experiences to imprint deeply in the unconscious (Lanius & Vermetten, 2010). This fertile ground for pain causes us to live disconnected, fighting with our own traumas and wounds, unable to integrate body, emotion, and mind. Often, we end up dealing with mental, emotional, and physical symptoms—falling ill. Worse yet, this directs our energy from a place of deficiency, making us energetically malnourished and attracting from that lack—a state of energetic debt. Thus, we already carry an energetic debt from intrauterine life and early childhood. Our energetic sources (mother, father, ancestral legacy) have passed on that debt. But this is not the origin—this is already a repetition. So where does this energetic debt truly originate? In my professional and personal experience, I’ve observed that we all carry debts from previous experiences and from our lineage—our transgenerational inheritance. Feminine and masculine energies arrive to us imbalanced, disintegrated, and often in conflict. The masculine (giver) and the feminine (receiver) energies are in debt; the balance of giving and receiving has been severely disrupted throughout human history. In my research on this topic, one thing caught my attention: the appearance of Homo sapiens and their hybridization with Neanderthals marks a key moment. What is often labelled as “evolution” may, in reality, reflect a disconnection from the inner (traditionally feminine) world in favour of the external (masculine) realm. This shift introduces a new form of indebtedness—anchored not in survival, but in social conformity and belonging.

To survive, one had to provide and sacrifice for the group/system. Interestingly, Neanderthals already practiced strong communal rites, deeply connected to the cosmos and Earth/nature. Their internal connection coexisted with mutual support within the clan—unified with parents, grandparents, as if all were one being. While Neanderthals were historically depicted as uncivilized, modern evidence shows they had complex social lives, cared for each other, and engaged in symbolic behaviour. Although Homo sapiens are often credited with more advanced social cooperation, this may reflect differences in group size, symbolic culture, and cognition—not a lack of sophistication in Neanderthals. Hybridization contributed to human genetic diversity but is only one part of the broader evolutionary story. As history progresses, humanity begins to manipulate the external world in pursuit of physical comfort, status, and power—introducing “competition” and a struggle to belong. From my perspective, this is the origin of unconscious loyalty: you followed the clan, or you were excluded—and that meant death. So energetic debt emerges when, for the sake of belonging, the individual abandon themselves—a self-betrayal and an abuse of authority by the scheme. As a result: individuals grow increasingly disconnected from their inner world, using the outer world as their only connection point. In other words: feminine energy (self-love, inner satisfaction, being) is sacrificed for masculine energy (duty, doing, providing, authority). This disconnection from our inner light increases our dependency on external sources, feeding a vicious cycle: The more we cling to the external, the more we abandon ourselves. The more we abandon ourselves, the more energetically deficient and manipulable we become, attracting events that perpetuate debt: grief, loss, war, abuse, energetic invasion. Love and pleasure are used as currency, causing in return imbalance in giving and receiving, etc. Since every individual is born into a lineage, the very fact of belonging makes us inherit its energetic debt/lack. That inheritance determines that our malnourished energy will be attracted from that place. So, what is karma? Karma is this: an opportunity to resolve the debt. How do we release that debt? How do we settle it? The individual must heal their DNA, cleanse energetic imprints and wounds, and recover their energy and willpower. We must acknowledge that, although we are part of a lineage—and the product of the success of our ancestors, since we’re here thanks to them—we do not have to repeat the patterns that were installed to survive under the weight of debt. Even if the individual is aware of their wounds, deficiencies, and is conscious enough to want to do things differently, the energetic imprints remain until they connect with their roots, with their shadow, with the pain they resist to acknowledge. To do that, we must break the energetic chains that bind us to the external scheme and set ourselves free. This is not an easy process—many prefer to stay in victimhood, debt, lack, and suffering. But in truth, it is the greatest act of self-love: liberating our true expression and reclaiming our most authentic self to expand without limitation. From my point of view, this return to our essence is not only a commitment to ourselves, but a responsibility to future generations to whom we would otherwise pass down the debt.

References.

Barrett, L. F. (2017). How Emotions Are Made.

van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score.

Siegel, D. J. (1999). The Developing Mind.

Perry, B. D. & Szalavitz, M. (2006). The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog.

National Scientific Council on the Developing Child. (2005). Excessive Stress Disrupts the Architecture of the Developing Brain.

Lanius, R. A., Vermetten, E., & Pain, C. (2010). The Impact of Early Life Trauma on       Health and Disease.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epigenetics_of_anxiety_and_stress%E2%80%93related_disorders?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Biography- Sonia Tapiador Coello brings a profound and unique perspective to her work as a psychologist. Her early life experiences fostered a deep-seated drive to seek answers and understand the human experience, endowing her with heightened awareness and sensitivity. This innate wisdom, coupled with her academic pursuits, laid the foundation for her distinctive approach to healing.

After graduating with a degree in Psychology in 2002, Sonia dedicated herself to helping children and families. In 2007, she founded Educainfants, an Infant Psychology Center in Rubí, Barcelona, where she continues to support children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families. As an expert in Neurodivergence and Family Therapy, she is passionately devoted to the healing of “wounded children,” guiding them through a powerful fusion of innate intuition and learned therapeutic tools.

Driven by a lifelong curiosity, Sonia continually expands her practice beyond conventional scientific frameworks. In 2021, she embraced Regression Therapy, training with Carlos González Delgado (a disciple of José Luis Cabouli and president of the Spanish Association of Regression Therapy). Her work now deeply explores trauma and energetic wounds stemming from soul experiences, transgenerational inheritance, intrauterine life, birth, and early childhood, offering truly holistic healing.

Publications:

“The Soul Without a Veil”

“Take Care of Your Energy, Take Care of Your Superpower”

“Child Regression Therapy: A Practical Manual”

Contact details: Sonia Tapiador Coello, Barcelona (Spain)

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